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Understanding Our Essential Needs

Our “essential needs”—met or unmet—affect our thinking, emotions and ultimately our behavior. The following list describes 10 of our essential needs and how we may respond depending on the circumstance. Understanding our potential response can help us to better navigate difficult situations as well as how we can better love...

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The Love-Based Apology

The four parts of the love-based apology are expressing (1) remorse and (2) repentance, taking (3) responsibility for the wrong and (4) making restitution.1 All four elements are important for healing and rebuilding trust. Remorse: Remorse shows love and soothes the pain with empathy, comfort, and compassion. This is very...

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When We Are Unloving (Part 2)

Let’s look a little closer at the other word I (Mark Fee) deliberately use when talking about sin or being unloving: the word “harm.” Whether we have passive or open aggression toward another, this is where we are being intentional to cause pain. We can do this in all kinds...

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When We Are Unloving (Part 1)

What do we do when we are unloving, when we sin? I (Mark) use the term “unloving” for a reason. When we talk about sin we often mean failing to live up to some standard. Romans 3:23, for example, reminds us that, “all have sinned and fall short of the...

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Loving in Action (God Sightings)

When I (Mark) first began to experience God’s love by making time to come to Him to be loved, I mainly experienced His love through words alone. But then came a time in the life of our church when we were going through Gary Chapman’s book on the five love...

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Eat What is Good

“Listen, listen to me, and eat what is good and your soul will delight in the richest of fare.Give ear and come to me; hear me, that your soul may live.” (Isaiah 55:2-3) Do you hear God’s tone of voice, His passion, coming through the text? He wants our souls...

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Love Languages

Thanks to Gary Chapman and his work on The 5 Love Languages, we can better understand the primary love language we enjoy most, as well as the one we tend to communicate toward others. This helps us understand the various ways we can “speak” love to our neighbor and fulfill...

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Meditation on Psalm 25, Verse 1

As part of the First Loved to Love curriculum, we encourage practicing the “Synonym/Antonym Meditation Exercise” in order to better hear God speak his words of love to you through his Word using words and phrases that mean the same but maybe speak to your heart more deeply. Often this...

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